Monday, January 5, 2009

High calling of a Wife, Mother

Praise the Lord for wives, praise the Lord for mothers.
We surely live in a culture that despises the greatest things, in Voddie Bauchams "family driven faith" (a high recommender if you have children and want to think of how you will influence them, or have devotions etc...) early in the book he gave the example of being at a retreat where at one point he gave the usual address to college kids 'some of you may be called to be bible translators, called to be..., called to be..." and of course there were nods and excitement in eyes, yet when he said 'some will be called to have large families raising five, six children to train them in righteousness to impact the world' and then the faces dropped as though he was speaking another language, Voddie took the opportunity to make the point by asking this question 'when did we start hating kids?'.
Think about it, what nobility is given to motherhood? What is honorable about a good mother? Or a good wife? isn't the question 'well what else has she done' or it's 'yes, but what has she done for herself?". That attitude, that view upon the role of motherhood and a godly wife is completely worldly, it's not biblical. Who are the great women? In the eyes of the Lord, they are the women who are faithful in their callings.
Isn't it wonderful when a professional woman sacrifices her position and decides to raise her child? NO it's NOT, because it's NOT a sacrifice! For a woman to do such a thing is NOT a stepping down but a STEPPING UP to a greater, more purposeful, more honoring, more biblical, more glorious calling. 'counting it all loss...' it's trading the worthless accolades of the world for the glory of God!
I can say with all my force that I'm sick and tired of the low view many Christians even, have of the great position of a mother or a wife. These are the callings that take the MOST faith, the MOST endurance, the MOST grace, not entering the corporate world, not even leading a great womens ministry.
I like what John Piper had to say (i believe) at the 'together for the gospel' conference, about his vision for women to become sages at his church, women full of the word and wisdom that can give theological counsel to the younger. THIS MUST BE THE GOAL OF EVERY CHURCH. If only the men are taught in a church, then that CHURCH has failed it's duty. Godly women crave the word, they MUST be addressed, they must be confronted, they must be TRAINED. It's nothing but pure chauvinism to expect nothing more than scrapbooking, knitting, cooking and childcare while the men feed on the word! Praise the Lord for women who won't stand for that, who aren't satisfied with those typical groups, but cry out for the truth of the scriptures. I believe in homeschooling, but a homeschool mom lacking sound theology is no better than the public schools. Praise the Lord for the Pastors who are just as concerned with what the women are being taught as what the men are being taught!
Prov 31: 1 The sayings of King Lemuel—an oracle his mother taught him,
The teaching of this 'mom' in put into holy scripture! A mother has the unique ability to influence the thought patterns of a child, she even above the father has more opportunity to influence the development of a child's mind.
Consider also what Paul says of Timothy 2 Tim 1:5 I have been reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am persuaded, now lives in you also. 2 Tim 3:14But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have become convinced of, because you know those from whom you learned it, 15and how from infancy you have known the holy Scriptures....
Praise the Lord for such an influence, for such fruitfulness. There are countless callings that have truly lost their honor among our culture and those callings are without a doubt the highest among God.
Of all the things that could have been said to teach women, consider greatly what Paul said to Titus: 2:3-5 3 Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, 4and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
Read it again! Consider that these things are of most importance, and yet consider what is the normal reaction (perhaps yours) when you hear these things explained and encouraged. Yet this is the great high call of a godly wife and mother, the call that when she is upon her death bed will give her the greatest joy. There is nothing so humbling as a wife's submission, nothing that so convicts a man as that; NOTHING!!!!!!! There's nothing so encouraging to a minister, to a man who KNOWS his wife is lifting him up in intercession. There's nothing like being honored by a faithful wife when a man is suffering persecution or weary under the strain of dealing with mean and ungrateful people. Nothing as soothing to the conscience of a father, that his children are in the tender hands of his wife, that their minds are under her godly influence.
"Mentors?" Surely a church should nurture an atmosphere where this is being lived out, (this is what Piper was saying), now if you believe small groups does this best then great, yet you must also realize that it's played out in churches where there are no such 'programs'. Regardless of 'how', the women must first be instructed in their positions in Christ, they must be encouraged in godly living and godly teaching. Then this aspect of the older teaching the younger can be lived out, but again notice the subjects: not the 'typical' womens gathering. My own mother noted that the church she now attends, that the womens ministry is totally unlike anything she's ever encountered (and that's a long list) where it's 'not the typical womens study'; What does that mean? You probably know, and that's the problem, the typical are usually full of purely 'emotional' (you cry, i cry, we cry-now we feel better- group hug, let's go home!), purely worldly conversation (gardening, recipes, color scheming w/ a bible verse), or gossip sessions! This mostly due to the lack of involvement, oversight and expectation of leadership within a church.
It is because of the culture we live in, and because of the overwhelming influence of this type of thinking, that we the church must hold high biblical standards, and more importantly lift up these under-appreciated and under-encouraged women.
God's supply to such women is endless, He will provide, He will sustain, you labor is NOT in vain!
To those yet awaiting such things, such callings, perhaps single women: honor the Lord where you are! Do you desire to be a wife, to be a mother, than praise the Lord you desire a good thing, this is honorable as long as you don't 'despise' where you are or the possibility that you might never be given this calling and as long as you don't allow it to consume you to the point of ignoring 'today'.
Well i'm out of thoughts for now, kinda of choppy but i hope it's fruitful!


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