Tuesday, June 23, 2009

modesty, validates the gospel

Well it's summertime, and is particularly a tempting time for believers as to modesty. For women to allow their body heat (best scenario) or their lust to be lusted after, and to give in to what the culture preaches as acceptable. Why is it acceptable? "because the majority has accepted it!"
Ladies and those men responsible, the biblical reality is that there is NOT as much 'liberty' as you may think there is. It's not a gray area, where the scriptures are incredibly silent, no the scriptures are quite clear but as with other things are not beyond 'twisting'.
The first question before reading any further is to ask yourself, 'do I really want to know what the scriptures say, even if it goes against all I've ever known?' if you can say 'by Gods' grace YES' then praise the Lord!

I listened to a very good message on this today from Pastor Albert Martin and he quoted several times from an article Mary Mohler (wife of Al Mohler) wrote concerning modesty. So I beg you to listen to this message and read the article. This is one of those messages you may never hear preached but you wish you would. PASTORS I double dog dare you to address this topic so biblically, unless you don't have the holy reverence, godly care, and self-denying boldness contained in this message.

Here's a piece from Mary Mohler's Modeling Modesty

What about the way we dress for church? Let me be clear. If you arrive at church and your perfume arrived five minutes before you, there is a problem. If you arrive at church dressed in such a way that you have spent more time and effort preparing your clothing, hair and make-up than you have preparing your heart for corporate worship of the one true and living God, there is a problem. But, if you arrive at church dressed like you are ready to slop the pigs on a farm, there is a problem. If you arrive at church dressed in such a way that by the end of the service the people around you, by no fault of their own, now know the color of your underwear and they have watched you do a shimmy dance as you try to get your too-short, too-tight skirt to go under you, there is a big problem.
Don’t blame the men around you who happen to be unfortunate enough to be within sight and say that they need to get their minds out of the gutter. Proverbs 30:20 says, "This is the way of an adulterous woman; she eats and wipes her mouth, and says, ‘I have done no wrong.’" Ladies must remember what battles men face to stay pure as they are stimulated visually by women. They should never have it flaunted in their faces and to have it done at church is an abomination.
What started out as a well-intentioned move to counter ostentatious attire has resulted in opening the floodgates such that anything goes..............

......Another important issue relates to how successful we are as parents in teaching modesty to our daughters. So many mothers make the critical error of trying to be their daughter’s friend instead of being her parent. Often, the first thing the teenager picks off the rack is something that is just over the edge. Then mom starts rationalizing. Her daughter is a good kid. She doesn’t smoke or drink. She is going to buy it with her own money. All of her friends are wearing this style. Plus, if you say "no," it is going to ruin the whole mood of the outing. So, she gives in and approves. We all want our kids to love us but at what cost? When do we plan to start teaching them? As they are heading off for college? No, we must teach them early on that they must stand for something or they are going to fall for everything.
Suitable fashions for teenage girls are out there. Sometimes you have to look a little bit harder for them. Bypassing the juniors’ department is a good start. Am I saying that my teenaged daughter cannot wear jeans, tee shirts, shorts, a bathing suit or skirts that are above her knee? No, there are times when certain garments within those categories are appropriate. Am I saying that never, ever, not even once can she wear a halter top, tube top, cropped top, mini skirt, skin tight shirts, anything that shows cleavage or midriff, hip-hugger jeans and shirts that don’t meet, that she can’t even go into an Abercrombie store, that she can’t keep Clinique in business when she is 14, and that her Sunday clothes are going to be different from her other clothes? Yes, that is exactly what I am saying. Unlike the discount store whose tags say, may God give us both the desire and the wisdom to live lives that are holy in every aspect. A lost world is watching. "there are no rules," her father and I believe there are rules. There are absolutes. There is a line that you just don’t cross. I hasten to add that it wouldn’t matter if her father was a seminary president or a ditch digger, the rules would be the same.
Do I sound like an authoritative parent? Good. Parents are to love, shepherd and nurture their precious children but they are also commanded to teach and admonish them, because they are still children. They need direction. So many parents have the nurturing part down, but they abdicate the whole authority issue. They allow their daughters to go out and "go along with the crowd, express themselves and develop their own personalities," and when they come in looking like harlots, the parents throw up their hands and say, "She doesn’t seem to think like we do about fashion."
Mothers of sons have often asked me, "What can we do? We don’t have daughters that we can influence, but we have sons that are looking at how your daughters dress." Men of all ages struggle with this. It is our job as mothers of daughters to make sure that our daughters’ appearances are not causing males to stumble or causing females to point to them as examples to make their cases.
Richard Baxter, the great Puritan preacher, said to women, "And you must not lay a stumbling block in their way, nor blow up the fire of their lust, nor make your ornaments snares but you must walk among sinful persons as you would do with a candle among straw or gunpowder, or else you may see the flame which you would not foresee, when it is too late to quench it." What a timely warning. On the one hand, there is a world that says there are no rules and anything goes. Then you have some libertarian type Christians who cry, "Liberty, liberty, we are not under law, we are under grace. It doesn’t matter. Wear whatever you want to." On the other hand, there are also some legalistic Christians who radically restrict what they believe women are allowed to wear. Finally, there is a wide area in the middle of Christian modesty in practice. There is great diversity in this middle ground. This is where our tastes and styles are reflected by the many different options that allow for us to express our preferences.

And here's the sermon you gotta listen to:


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